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Submitted by Holden on Thu, 07/08/2010 - 19:04
In this episode Holden comments on the HP purchase of Palm and what that means for the future of WebOS devices. Finds that conservatives from Nevada have actually found someone crazier than Sue Lowden to run against Harry Reid, Sharron Angle. Holden shares some thoughts and a story about the sad state of comprehensive sex education in the United States. He comments on an NPR story about love and the strong expectation and illusion of "The One" and "Happily Ever After". And finishes up with two quotes from two great minds on "reality", and discusses our group state of mind and the majority consensus on the structure of society and how many errors have been made throwing around the label "traditional".
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Episode 3 "The One"
Offering another viewpoint. Seeing how the Polyamory lifestyle is only 8 months old to me I'm still able to identify with what "the one" means. Yes insecurity has a lot to with it. But if you said that to the average person they would look at you with confusion. I struggled for years about being bi-sexual. Instead I choose to see in life things that were traditional and normal, that conditioned me to understand that what I felt was bad. To be successful in my life I needed one man, 3 children, pta, the kids' band, soccer, football, etc. Anything else and I was not like the "Jones".
In short what we perceive around us as a majority conditions us to believe it's what we should strive for as well.
Luckily society has your generation and part of mine that help broaden the horizons.
Keep up the great work. :)
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I can understand "the one" as a sentiment. What saddened me was less that she wanted to hear him say it and more that when he explained he didn't buy into it as an absolute, but felt that she was still exceptional, that she felt the better option was to tell him to lie to her and say it anyway.
I do agree that while it should be recognized that finding someone you have substantial compatibility with is, odds wise, a fairly impressive task that it is positive movement that people are now recognizing that it really isn't a matter of there being only one person in the universe you're destined for (regardless of mono/poly status). I think the sentiment of "the one" puts a lot of excessive pressure on any relationship to always be perfect (which no relationship is, however close it may be). :-)
Thanks for sharing your thoughts and your support.